Why do we need essential fatty acids in our daily diet?

By Kimberlee Sweeney
One of the most pervasive forms of nutritional starvation we experience today is for essential fatty acids, not only our internal bodies but also for our skin too. You all ask me why my skin looks so great.  Well it is not attributed to just all the amazing skincare and facials I treat my skin with, it is also internal well-being too. Good nutrition and high quality Omegas, lots of water, vitamins and minerals all have an impact on our skin.    A good night’s sleephelps too and you will only get that good night’s sleep once you have a healthy dose of quality daily nutrition and essential vitamins and minerals in your system. It has taken me many years to figure this all out and to cure my insomnia and chronic fatigue. Read my post – inflammation and pain and insomnia to learn more. Continue reading

How I eliminated my pain, inflammation and cured my insomnia of 9 years…

I thought it was time I shared my story …….

After many years of trying A LOT of various creams, potions, holistic therapies, supplements, healthcare professionals and so on, for my back and joint pain, insomnia and fatigue I was beginning to despair.  NOTHING seemed to work!  I suffered for nine years with insomnia and fatigue and for over fifteen years with back pain. I put up with the pain, thinking… it’s job related and unless I change careers there’s not a lot else in can do but manage it.

Then along came my gorgeous daughter. The baby that keeps you awake all night and only slept during the day from pure exhaustion on her part I am sure. Colic, reflux, she had it all and she screamed all night. It wasn’t fun for either of us. Along came phase two for me…. insomnia, I am not one for sleeping during the day so the whole sleep with the baby sleep wasn’t a happening thing for me; I am a woman of action!  And my baby slept only 1 hour between feeds and screaming, so there was not a lot of time for me to begin the sleep cycle before the 3-4 hours were up and it was feeding time again.

My baby and I eventually found losec and she was happy, content and sleeping like nothing before, well shall we just say better than before, she still gets me up at night 9 yrs. on…..  Alas, my ongoing insomnia…. So she was sleeping her regular set sleeps, of course waking in the night but not awake all night- screaming in pain, but there I was awake, night after night….  As a first time mum I did all the usual things mums do, constantly listening out for her to wake and getting no sleep myself, my diet was erratic and I often turned to energy foods that were more often than not, higher in sugar, or coffee to keep me going, hey I switched to decaf thinking that will help….. It didn’t…. so erratic diet, working mamma, child whom didn’t like bed time and took two hours to get to sleep…. This situation led to increased pain and increased insomnia due to inflammatory foods and the lack of sleep causing more pain and inflammation; it was a vicious circle I couldn’t seem to break.

So much joy in our house there was, NOT! After two and half years this situation took its toll and impacted on my marriage which eventually ended. Despite the exhaustion and lack of support I was a typical mum that felt I had to do it all. The old saying if “I knew then what I know now and all…” Yeah, that’s me but hey, life goes on and now I’m a single working mamma. So yeah the insomnia was there for the long haul, through the breakdown of the marriage, through the newly coming to grips with single parenting, through the running my own business and juggling finances alone. Oh the joys of divorce.

As time went by I tried many things to help me sleep, to fix my back pain and nothing worked long term. I might get relief for a day or two or sleep one night out of seven but it wasn’t enough and chronic fatigue was setting in. I had just gotten used to living this way and functioning this way. Many people in my life had no idea how I was feeling or coping. My life became very insular and was all about being the best mum I could be and keeping my business going. I even studied and took a slight side step with my career, I look back and wonder HOW I did any of that at the time, with very little sleep, but I did it and it was just how life was for me. I still had dreams and aspirations but I wasn’t ready to let my body take charge of my life. Some days it put up a good fight however.

During my studying I meet Laura who lives in NYC. She introduced me to an amazing product line.  I was sceptical due to my profession and I wasn’t interested in a random product line that wasn’t clinic only. I was a typical closed minded beauty professional back then. But I trusted Laura and I listened to what she had to say, I spent a few months researching the product and the company before I got involved. I tried the products and fell in love with them. My biggest concern was the business aspect, network marketing. This was new to me and I wasn’t sure it was my cup of tea at all. However, I joined, for the products and it’s the best thing I have ever done, for my business, for my clients, for my future both health wise and financially.

There is a whole skincare line that I instantly fell in love with and my skin has never looked better, I get compliments daily, it’s like I am improving with age and what woman doesn’t want to do that? Then came the nutritional line, it launched in NZ end of  2016, 6 months after I’m become a walking billboard for the skincare, hair care and makeup lines, I then thought well it’s not really my type of thing this whole nutrition thing but I will try it, I get it at wholesale so hey! ☺

Initially I tried the nutritional line to try and loose a little weight, and so I was able to say I have tried it and this is what I think….!  It has worked wonderfully and has helped me maintain my weight along the way, and I love that the programme is so easy for a busy person. I lost 5kg in the first 30 days. Now I do the maintenance programme with a few naughty treats along the way and I have kept off the 6kg I lost for over six months now. It’s amazing for me who finds it tough to lose weight even with exercise and diet; I was the eternal yoyo-err. So to have maintained my 6 kg loss is simply amazing for me.

Nevertheless, it’s the ‘side effects’ that have really hooked me and made me a huge advocate for these products. By doing the Arbonne 30 days of healthy living and beyond it has meant I have lessened or eliminated foods and ingredients that have for years caused massive amounts of inflammation in my system, causing not only chronic back and joint pain but also chronic fatigue paired with chronic insomnia for nine years! I was not doing well at all…….  This programmed has pretty much 99% cleared my inflammation and in turn stopped my chronic pain. No more chronic fatigue and I am sleeping like a baby most night for the first time in 9 years, due to the simple fact that my body is no longer in constant pain and I am getting all the necessary vitamins and minerals my body has craved for years, in the exact dose that I need to lead a healthy and happy life. Literally sleeping 7-8 hr most nights AND I feel amazing.  I have energy again, my moods and hormone levels are better than EVER, and I hardly every think about pain as it’s very rarely noticeable. It flares up literally if I have increased sugars from sweet treats or alcohol, or if I don’t get enough sleep. If I avoid those foods and sleep, I am pain free. I am not spending a fortune anymore on healthcare practitioners and potions or taking drugs to get to sleep. If I simply stick to my healthy living programme I am my old self again after 9 yrs. of …….. Well let’s call it a very challenging time that I can gleefully say it is over and I am looking forward to a healthy and happy life once again.

The future looks bright!

If you would like to learn more about my healthy living programme or this business call me and let’s chat. 100% guaranteed you will fall in love, like I have, or your money back! I promise!

Let me mentor you into the best YOU there is…

– Kimberlee Sweeney.

ESTROGENS – the female hormone responsible for so much in health, relationships and wellbeing. -by Kimberlee Sweeney


ESTROGENS – the female hormone responsible for so much in health, relationships and wellbeing.  -by Kimberlee Sweeney

I’ve been doing a bit of reading of late about relationships and hormones and healthy living with clean eating , (yes separately, as that’s how I roll – 3 books on the go at one time- but they all do intertwine. I did know what I am about to share with you already, but now I REALLY know how and why and I’ve REALLY realised how much all of these things affect each of us within our day to day lives, connections in the world around us, and our romantic relationships.  I wanted to share my findings with you as I think they are fascinating and are really a big part of how I work with all of my clients in both my roles as a therapist and a coach.

I like to look at things within my own being and from my clients personal needs also, from a holistic approach. I.e.  Why do we act and react the way we do, what is the mind-set behind our behaviours and what is the outcome from them? What could we do differently to change future outcomes for the better and maybe live a simpler, happier life?  Really that is what we all want at the end of the day isn’t it? Much of what I am going to be talking about here is about the female hormone, estrogen!  I personally think this is a good read for men too however! As men, you say you don’t or can’t understand woman sometimes and why or how we think and do what we do!  Well read on;
Let me shed a tiny bit of light on the subject for you. This is a my personal brief overview, and if you would like to learn more on this topic I specifically recommend   Dr John Grey’s new book Beyond Mars and Venus, for more in-depth insights, it’s fascinating.

The female reproductive system produces many hormones but for today we are focusing on estrogen, yes! And it’s thought as woman get older estrogen levels deplete! Well some say maybe this happens,  apparently our estrogen depletes for varying factors: one main factor is a few days before, during and for 5 days or so after menstruation, (that time of the month), and rising again naturally after ovulation (middle of the cycle when woman are fertile), later in life estrogen depletes with menopause (they think, but does it?),  for woman of all ages our estrogen levels can rise and fall every day every month for the rest of their lives, depending on how they are feeling, inside and out. Now I’m not here to tell you the ins and outs of the female cycle but to give you a brief overview so you can understand yourself and why you (or your partner for the men reading this trying to figure out the female species)  act and react the way you do, and why so differently depending on the time of the month!

When a woman’s estrogen levels are high they are more feminine, we are generally more loving, kind, considerate and more open to being loved by others,  having a deeper need and want for more intimacy, in this rush of estrogen phase. But on the flip side when a woman is lacking or very low in estrogen then the natural testosterone in a female body overrides the estrogen and her masculine  side kicks in and she becomes more independent, less needy, less loving and less nurturing and more…’ I don’t need a man I can do it all myself!’ (Sound familiar?)  It’s like someone flicked a switch, and it’s very common in most women. Some of us are better at disguising it than others. But we disguise or manage this flipping of said switch better if we are shown from our partner, children or friends a little more loving and kindness and happiness during this low estrogen producing phase. How you ask? Well…….. Women can naturally produce our their estrogen if they  are feeling, positive, loved, cared for, happy and appreciated, connected to and needed or wanted. If you can fill these emotional tanks in a woman 9 times out of 10 it will perk her back up and increase her estrogen levels and all is calm and happy again. See it’s that easy!!

So next time you notice this within yourself or your partner, recognise what is going on and put some things in place to lighten the mood and turn that frown upside down. Yes it can be hard when you are in the midst of relationship problems, to turn things around and the longer you have been feeling unloved, unhappy, uncared for the longer it is going to take you to replenish those reserves, but with good practice and support it’s a definite possibility if you are both wanting to make a change.  As part of my relationship coaching I can help give you the tools to put strategies in place to help you and your partner navigate through and help your relationship thrive.  For those woman out there who are single I can already hear what you are thinking. I don’t have a man to initiate and improve my mood and feelings! Yes but you have good friends and family and other people in your life that you can lean on to express your emotions and allow them to perk you up and create some joy! When woman feel low in estrogen they generally are not 100% themselves and tend to hibernate and go into their shell, but if you can go out, to socialise and find the joy you will increase those estrogen levels much faster to get back to being your amazing self again within hours instead of waiting days for your body to struggle along doing it internally for you.  So go out have fun, laugh, be loved and give love and life will only get better.

As a side note there are other factors that can deplete woman’s estrogen, Pesticides! We all know we should encourage more clean eating but do we really all understand why? Yes healthier living, weight loss or to cure insomnia, body pains, problem skin etc. But its not just the food we ingest its the skincare products and makeup we wear, plastic containers we drink or eat from, all that and so much more, BUT I bet you didn’t know this…..       Pesticides we ingest from food and water supplies once in our bodies disrupt our endocrine system and turn into xeno-estrogens. Which mimic our natural hormones, in this case estrogen. So our brain thinks we suddenly have enough estrogen and our body stops producing it naturally, in short! But in reality we are depleted of estrogen and instead of for a few days a month having low estrogen, its ALL month every month and then we turn into, well… a not so nice to be around person or have a feeling of being detached from your life and many many others feelings and symptoms that go with low estrogen!

How to overcome this….. Clean eating. Eat mostly Fresh organic foods and avoid preservatives and packaged foods and GMO foods. Simply do something to kick start off with a 30 days detox, to rid your body of unwanted toxins and substances.* Ask me about my 30 day healthy living, clean eating programme.  Use pure and safe skin care and makeup where at all possible. * Ask me about skincare and makeup ranges I recommend,  that are void of all Parabens such as methyl paraben, ethyl paraben, propyl paraben and butyl paraben  and other commonly used as a preservatives that are all endocrine disrupters and cause a lot of other health issues within the body (that’s a whole different topic). And by slowing making these changes to your lifestyle will in turn help your frame of mind, give you more positive energy and help all relationships within your life, romantic or otherwise. As if we feel fit and healthy and our bodies are free of toxins then our hormones are more stable, our head is clearer and our frame of mind is a happier one and we are a nicer person to be with, and will attract people to us more also!

Its not too late to put some changes in place, if you feel you would like further support to kick start your goals, improve your relationship or work on yourself from the inside out, then contact me and let’s make some positive changes in your life for a better more satisfying life!

Kimberlee Sweeney
Divorce and relationship coach and beauty therapist.



Acne, zits and pimples!  We all have them, all ages all genders, they just keep popping up. (Pun intended☺)  But how do we minimize them?  The good news is, “we can”!  Let me share some insights on how to regulate the oiliness of your skin and have a clearer problem-free skin.acne

Diet and Hormones

If you can get your diet and hormones under control you are well on your way to healthier skin. Fresh vegetables and a healthy balance of protein are essential. Decrease sugary foods and drinks and drink 1½ – 2 litres of H²O daily! Avoid processed foods and eating out of packets. A short period of detoxification can also be very useful. To help kick start your detox and begin a new healthier way of life. Continue reading